How much time and energy do you spend each day worrying about something?
Or, if you’re not particularly the worrying type, how much time do you see others spending in that state?
I’m willing to bet that none of that time or energy has ever contributed to a better outcome.
There’s certainly a place for reviewing things that have already happened, and most definitely a time to plan and prepare for future events, but worry is an unnecessary overlay.
Consideration is a good thing. Thinking can be very useful indeed. The application of reason to a problem or situation seems, well, quite reasonable.
As a signal that something needs your attention it may serve a purpose, but let it be short lived.
Whenever you notice a rising sense of dread, regret or anxiety, stop and ask yourself what you might be overlaying on the situation. Is there a story of your own construction that’s based more on conjecture than fact? If so, try to be a little more objective. Free up your attention for the matter at hand and share less of it with the worrying narrative.
For most of us, the ability to see worry as a constructed emotion and then let it go can be strengthened. This is well worth the effort!
Please note, however, if you experience regular or ongoing bouts of anxiety or depression don’t try to deal with it on your own. Confide in a close friend or loved one, or consult with a professional. There are some great resources available at www.blackdoginstitute.org.au or www.beyondblue.org.au. Please don’t suffer in silence.